My question involves child support in the State of: New York
Facts:
2 children, 24 (daughter) and 19 (son)
Most recent court order 2007 ruled (as agreed by both parents) that son stays with father, daughter goes with mother, no child support changes hands. Daughter turned 21 in 2011.
Son turned 19 in August.
Son, following refusal to file basic household rules and after an argument stemming from discussing said rules announces "You can't tell me what to do. I'm over 18. I'm out of here." We tried to stop him, have him take a night to cool off, but he drove off and that was that. Age of majority for custody is 18 in NYS. Age for support is 21 (ridiculous).
Sometime after, he ended up at his mother's house, having left ours for no due cause other than we didn't agree with a medication he was taking and tried to talk to him about long-term stimulant use *Vyvanse* We had been having marijuana and alcohol issues with him prior to this and had him seeing a therapist.
NOW, after us paying the full nut for the son for THREE FULL YEARS with no support from the mother (we paid for his car, prom, all dental and medical, literally EVERYTHING, she contributed NOTHING), she has filed for child support and reimbursement of his college expenses (community college). Our arrangement with him was he takes loans for college, as we believe it provides incentive for him to do well (and he wasn't, he was failing Algebra though his mother claims him to be an "A" student in the support papers).
Is there any way around this? It seems the most UNFAIR situation in the world. The kid gets to tell us to get out of his life, we can't tell him what to do and now we have to pay the ex support after we've paid for everything for said kid? Side note: mother "co-owns" a business with new husband but is claiming she only makes 26K a year. What the heck? Can we go back for the three years she didn't pay us since the child in her possession was over 21? Son had lived with us for over 9 years. His leaving was unjustified.
Facts:
2 children, 24 (daughter) and 19 (son)
Most recent court order 2007 ruled (as agreed by both parents) that son stays with father, daughter goes with mother, no child support changes hands. Daughter turned 21 in 2011.
Son turned 19 in August.
Son, following refusal to file basic household rules and after an argument stemming from discussing said rules announces "You can't tell me what to do. I'm over 18. I'm out of here." We tried to stop him, have him take a night to cool off, but he drove off and that was that. Age of majority for custody is 18 in NYS. Age for support is 21 (ridiculous).
Sometime after, he ended up at his mother's house, having left ours for no due cause other than we didn't agree with a medication he was taking and tried to talk to him about long-term stimulant use *Vyvanse* We had been having marijuana and alcohol issues with him prior to this and had him seeing a therapist.
NOW, after us paying the full nut for the son for THREE FULL YEARS with no support from the mother (we paid for his car, prom, all dental and medical, literally EVERYTHING, she contributed NOTHING), she has filed for child support and reimbursement of his college expenses (community college). Our arrangement with him was he takes loans for college, as we believe it provides incentive for him to do well (and he wasn't, he was failing Algebra though his mother claims him to be an "A" student in the support papers).
Is there any way around this? It seems the most UNFAIR situation in the world. The kid gets to tell us to get out of his life, we can't tell him what to do and now we have to pay the ex support after we've paid for everything for said kid? Side note: mother "co-owns" a business with new husband but is claiming she only makes 26K a year. What the heck? Can we go back for the three years she didn't pay us since the child in her possession was over 21? Son had lived with us for over 9 years. His leaving was unjustified.
Modification of Support: Child Support for a College Aged Child in New York
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