My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Tennessee
You all know I am mid-custody-battle right now, not having been to court on it yet.
The father is using my not sending my son to his mother's house anymore as one of the grounds for asking for custody, and I would like to know how big of an issue it is, to determine if I need to make changes before going to court about it.
Father never really used very much parenting time, but his mother and step-dad have been wiling to take care of my child to allow me to work. Until September, my son spent one or two nights most weeks at their house, especially during the summer because they had a pool, mostly for me to work. There have also been times, like when I worked evenings when my son spent a lot of time there. Free child care, so I took advantage, but there have been many issues over the years where they have done things to undermine me (trying to teach my son a different last name (dad's last name, when my son has my last name) or take responsibility for things that were not theirs (they spanked my son for his behavior at school.) My relationship with my son is rock solid, so I have just dealt with those things.
In September, the grandmother began harassing me about homeschooling my son. Less than a month into the school year, she went over the line and verbally attacked me in front of my son (my son came to my defense.) That was completely unacceptable to me and I had already been looking for other options for care.. I let it go that time and didn't make a big deal, but I was very mad. When she did it again, I kind of bit her head off and cut her off from my son. I stopped taking my son to her house and have since found a great family that keeps him for me when I work. I let him call her with news if HE wants to, has happened twice.. I emailed her a detailed letter about her offense and why her behavior is unacceptable and what would need to happen for her to change the current situation. I specifically told her that she could see Aiden when his dad brought him to her.
I also used to be very forthcoming with news and talking to her about my son because most of the communication between dad and I went through her. She has made no apologies or attempts to reconnect... she filed a complaint against me alleging neglect to DCS. It might also be useful to know, I kept dad out of this whole thing... I explained myself only in terms of stating my position. It might also be good to know that my son and I are both much happier since he isn't trying to navigate the rocky tense relationship she and I have had. It's nice to not have to answer questions like "why does grandma think you're a bad mommy, teacher, friend, ect..; why does grandma think you're hurting me... "
So, all that to ask... Was there any part of what I did that you see in this situation that was not justified from a legal perspective, or does an argument even have to made about this?
You all know I am mid-custody-battle right now, not having been to court on it yet.
The father is using my not sending my son to his mother's house anymore as one of the grounds for asking for custody, and I would like to know how big of an issue it is, to determine if I need to make changes before going to court about it.
Father never really used very much parenting time, but his mother and step-dad have been wiling to take care of my child to allow me to work. Until September, my son spent one or two nights most weeks at their house, especially during the summer because they had a pool, mostly for me to work. There have also been times, like when I worked evenings when my son spent a lot of time there. Free child care, so I took advantage, but there have been many issues over the years where they have done things to undermine me (trying to teach my son a different last name (dad's last name, when my son has my last name) or take responsibility for things that were not theirs (they spanked my son for his behavior at school.) My relationship with my son is rock solid, so I have just dealt with those things.
In September, the grandmother began harassing me about homeschooling my son. Less than a month into the school year, she went over the line and verbally attacked me in front of my son (my son came to my defense.) That was completely unacceptable to me and I had already been looking for other options for care.. I let it go that time and didn't make a big deal, but I was very mad. When she did it again, I kind of bit her head off and cut her off from my son. I stopped taking my son to her house and have since found a great family that keeps him for me when I work. I let him call her with news if HE wants to, has happened twice.. I emailed her a detailed letter about her offense and why her behavior is unacceptable and what would need to happen for her to change the current situation. I specifically told her that she could see Aiden when his dad brought him to her.
I also used to be very forthcoming with news and talking to her about my son because most of the communication between dad and I went through her. She has made no apologies or attempts to reconnect... she filed a complaint against me alleging neglect to DCS. It might also be useful to know, I kept dad out of this whole thing... I explained myself only in terms of stating my position. It might also be good to know that my son and I are both much happier since he isn't trying to navigate the rocky tense relationship she and I have had. It's nice to not have to answer questions like "why does grandma think you're a bad mommy, teacher, friend, ect..; why does grandma think you're hurting me... "
So, all that to ask... Was there any part of what I did that you see in this situation that was not justified from a legal perspective, or does an argument even have to made about this?
Modification of Custody: Changing Grandparents Relationship with Child
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