Termination: How to Better Prepare Ourselves for Court and Homecoming of the Kids

vendredi 12 décembre 2014

My question involves guardianship in the State of: California



I have filed the paperwork for termination of guardianship of my two young sons. I have the court date set for late next month, and I want to make sure I have done everything correctly and thoroughly.



The paternal Grandmother has guardianship which was established in 2012. It was her and her husband, though he unfortunately passed. I originally did not agree to the guardianship because I didn't understand how it worked, although I can see now that is was in fact needed, and best for my kids at the time. CPS has not been involved at anytime.



The reason for guardianship - I'm ashamed to say it, but I wasn't able to fully care for my kids at the time. I had depression and anxiety which I needed to take care of, and I wasn't able to fully care for my sons. Also because the father of the kids who was living with me at the time was abusive to the kids and I both. I originally asked the grandparents to care for kids when the father's abuse got really bad - which then led to guardianship.



To the present day, I have been seeing a doctor for almost 2 years now and am doing very well. He (doctor) offered to write a progress report for me to have for court. I am fully functional and able to care fully for all the needs of my sons. At the time of the guardianship, the abusive father and I were not in a relationship, however he was staying at my house. I kicked him out and got a 5 year restraining order against him for his abuse. I am currently engaged to a really supportive and caring man. He has an excellent job, is not abusive by any means, is very supportive of myself and my kids. We saw an attorney at the self help center at my local courthouse and she gave us the information we needed to file a step parent adoption, as he wants to take on the fatherly role for them and make our family official. We also both took parenting courses and received certificates of completion so we are as prepared as possible for the boys to come home. It was not court ordered, we decided it was something that we could benefit from to refresh our parenting skills.



On Monday I am going to have the court paper work served to the Grandmother. The father, who I heard is currently in prison, I am going to see if I can find out his location and have him get his papers served as well.



**Is there anything else that we can do to help our chances in court, as well as make this as comfortable as possible for the kids? I love them very much and I don't want this to be traumatic for them. We already have their bedrooms set up with beds, dressers, clothes, toys, wall decorations etc. However anything else that would make it a more comfortable transition if the judge terminates the guardianship for the boys, I would really like to have ready for them. Or even anything we can do as parents before they return home that would be a benefit to my kids. They are 3 and 5 years old, the 5 year old starts school next year.



Thank you so much for any opinions/advice you may have. Happy holidays! :D





Termination: How to Better Prepare Ourselves for Court and Homecoming of the Kids

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