My question involves a marriage in the state of: Oklahoma
I was hoping that someone else could provide some feedback or point me in the right direction. I've been divorced for 6 years, remarried for 5 years. My ex remarried about 3 years ago. There was no support order in place for the first 3.5 years while both girls lived 95% of the time with me. In 2013, my ex filed for full custody of my 14 and 17 year old girls, which we finally settled pre-trial in mid 2014. I have full custody of my youngest daughter. My ex has full custody of my oldest daughter. My ex exaggerated and lied to both the GAL and judge in extraordinary ways, but at least that part is over. I am constantly getting threats to "take me back to court" if I don't comply with his demands. The court room did not treat me favorably and he knows it. He even uses the judges name in his threats to add additional weight to his threats, almost as if he had her on speed dial (I know he doesn't, but that's how it feels). Now, less than 6 months after we settled, he's attempting to coerce me into increasing his child support and threatening that if I don't simply agree to his demands, he will take me back to the judge and also sue me for court costs, since "it's in the better interest of the children". I honestly don't even know what to think. I am already indebted to my attorney for over $4k (on a payment plan currently and have already paid over $10k this time and around $30k in the initial divorce) and can't afford more legal fees. But I also can't just lay over and do whatever he wants, as he'll be demanding more every few months. Currently, we're disagreeing over the fact that the insurance I provide for the girls is not included in the CS calculations. He's claiming less income and demanding more support. I'm fine with the change in income requirements, but also want to include the insurance that I'm paying for. He's demanding that because it wasn't included in the original calculation, he won't allow me to include the cost in the modified calculation. State law clearly allows that the custodial parent is given preference in who gets the credit. I'm not even asking that his insurance costs aren't included. I'm asking that both insurance premiums are included.
But to pay $1000's in attorney fees just to avoid an extra $150/month almost seems ridiculous. My current husband wants to fight it out in court, believing that this is only one "more" thing the ex will add. The ex is constantly finding ways to deduct from his responsibility and add to mine, so my current husband is probably correct about his beliefs.
I ran across the following article which almost perfectly describes my situation, other than I've never been physically abused.
http://ift.tt/1EuAk1i
Yes, I've spoken to my attorney about it. He thinks we'll win the CS argument, but I want to argue that the only reason we're there (again) is because of his threats and refusal to adhere to state law. He won't stop harassing me until the court forces him to pay financially for bringing suit. But then I think my attorney has no problem racking up fees, whether we win or lose: he's getting paid.
Thank you!
I was hoping that someone else could provide some feedback or point me in the right direction. I've been divorced for 6 years, remarried for 5 years. My ex remarried about 3 years ago. There was no support order in place for the first 3.5 years while both girls lived 95% of the time with me. In 2013, my ex filed for full custody of my 14 and 17 year old girls, which we finally settled pre-trial in mid 2014. I have full custody of my youngest daughter. My ex has full custody of my oldest daughter. My ex exaggerated and lied to both the GAL and judge in extraordinary ways, but at least that part is over. I am constantly getting threats to "take me back to court" if I don't comply with his demands. The court room did not treat me favorably and he knows it. He even uses the judges name in his threats to add additional weight to his threats, almost as if he had her on speed dial (I know he doesn't, but that's how it feels). Now, less than 6 months after we settled, he's attempting to coerce me into increasing his child support and threatening that if I don't simply agree to his demands, he will take me back to the judge and also sue me for court costs, since "it's in the better interest of the children". I honestly don't even know what to think. I am already indebted to my attorney for over $4k (on a payment plan currently and have already paid over $10k this time and around $30k in the initial divorce) and can't afford more legal fees. But I also can't just lay over and do whatever he wants, as he'll be demanding more every few months. Currently, we're disagreeing over the fact that the insurance I provide for the girls is not included in the CS calculations. He's claiming less income and demanding more support. I'm fine with the change in income requirements, but also want to include the insurance that I'm paying for. He's demanding that because it wasn't included in the original calculation, he won't allow me to include the cost in the modified calculation. State law clearly allows that the custodial parent is given preference in who gets the credit. I'm not even asking that his insurance costs aren't included. I'm asking that both insurance premiums are included.
But to pay $1000's in attorney fees just to avoid an extra $150/month almost seems ridiculous. My current husband wants to fight it out in court, believing that this is only one "more" thing the ex will add. The ex is constantly finding ways to deduct from his responsibility and add to mine, so my current husband is probably correct about his beliefs.
I ran across the following article which almost perfectly describes my situation, other than I've never been physically abused.
http://ift.tt/1EuAk1i
Yes, I've spoken to my attorney about it. He thinks we'll win the CS argument, but I want to argue that the only reason we're there (again) is because of his threats and refusal to adhere to state law. He won't stop harassing me until the court forces him to pay financially for bringing suit. But then I think my attorney has no problem racking up fees, whether we win or lose: he's getting paid.
Thank you!
Divorce: Coercive Litigation
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