My question involves a child custody case from the State of: California
I really just want the opinion of an outside party that isn't emotionally invested.
I have had 50/50 legal and physical custody of my now 3.5 year old son, since he was 3 months old.
His mother has violated the agreement multiple times. Once taking him out of state for 10 days (including over my days) without my consent, multiple times not showing up at the designated time for me to pick him up, trying to yell at me while we exchange the child (which is directly noted in the agreement, not to do), and now she has enrolled the child in a daycare that is 35 miles away from my house, on my days, without my consent. In September, she moved in with her new boyfriend and his sister. Both have DUI's and drug charges. The sister has a drug arrest as recent as the end of September, since my child has been living there with his mother. My child's maternal grandparents came to me, and told me that the mom's boyfriend is abusing my son, and driving him while drunk. I asked her about living with a drug addict, and when she found out that her parents told me, she got a restraining order against her parents. I have a copy of it, so i know that it is real. Son's mother has shown up to my house in the middle of the night recently (midnight-1am) with no notice or reason and dropped my son off. She sends extremely harassing/threatening text messages and calls when she thinks that she doesn't get her way. Anything from telling our son to call me by my first name and saying that his mom said "daddy" is a bad word. She has taught my son to call my wife (of 3 years) is a whore. When I ask why he says that, he said that "mommy told him." She also did not complete the court ordered parenting class from our original custody hearing, which I did.
I had a lawyer from the beginning and that lawyer refused to take her back to court of the unauthorized vacation or not completing the parenting class. My new lawyer is taking her back to court for enrolling him in this daycare far from my house, specifically on may days against my will, and living with a drug addict. I am asking for full temporary custody until she can find a better living situation, and a job.
I have been very careful to not speak ill of her on days that I have my son, so he wont hear it. Despite the fact that we don't get along, and I don't agree with her choices, I dont want to damage our son because of our pettiness.
My question is:
Am I being unreasonable because I'm emotionally involved?
I really just want the opinion of an outside party that isn't emotionally invested.
I have had 50/50 legal and physical custody of my now 3.5 year old son, since he was 3 months old.
His mother has violated the agreement multiple times. Once taking him out of state for 10 days (including over my days) without my consent, multiple times not showing up at the designated time for me to pick him up, trying to yell at me while we exchange the child (which is directly noted in the agreement, not to do), and now she has enrolled the child in a daycare that is 35 miles away from my house, on my days, without my consent. In September, she moved in with her new boyfriend and his sister. Both have DUI's and drug charges. The sister has a drug arrest as recent as the end of September, since my child has been living there with his mother. My child's maternal grandparents came to me, and told me that the mom's boyfriend is abusing my son, and driving him while drunk. I asked her about living with a drug addict, and when she found out that her parents told me, she got a restraining order against her parents. I have a copy of it, so i know that it is real. Son's mother has shown up to my house in the middle of the night recently (midnight-1am) with no notice or reason and dropped my son off. She sends extremely harassing/threatening text messages and calls when she thinks that she doesn't get her way. Anything from telling our son to call me by my first name and saying that his mom said "daddy" is a bad word. She has taught my son to call my wife (of 3 years) is a whore. When I ask why he says that, he said that "mommy told him." She also did not complete the court ordered parenting class from our original custody hearing, which I did.
I had a lawyer from the beginning and that lawyer refused to take her back to court of the unauthorized vacation or not completing the parenting class. My new lawyer is taking her back to court for enrolling him in this daycare far from my house, specifically on may days against my will, and living with a drug addict. I am asking for full temporary custody until she can find a better living situation, and a job.
I have been very careful to not speak ill of her on days that I have my son, so he wont hear it. Despite the fact that we don't get along, and I don't agree with her choices, I dont want to damage our son because of our pettiness.
My question is:
Am I being unreasonable because I'm emotionally involved?
Modification of Custody: Changing Joint Custody Due to the Other Parent's Non-Compliance With a Custody Order
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