My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Texas
The story:
My wife and I have been married for 8 years. For 6.5 years my step-daughters visitation with her biological father has been seamless.From ages 4-10 he saw her every other Saturday as a mutual spoken agreement. That was enough time for him. He remarried about a year and a half ago and its been hell. He married a social worker and alll of a sudden he wanted to enforce the visitation agreement (which was mid week) and he lives 45 minutes away. So he would drive back and forth multiple times a day, taking her to school and picking her up. We had to spend $1000 to get that changed to the weekends. However, he didnt want to take her to ANY of her activities. Games,Choir nothing that happened on Saturday. He said it was HIS time. Its crazy, all this because of his new wife. She will come in the room and tell him to change the TV if its a PG-13 movie that he is watching with her (shes 12) and he will do it.
So in other words were dealing with the decision maker in her, he does what she says.
We were going to go to court again but they agreed to mediate at the last minute and because of her activities visitation was agreed to every other Saturday (what it was before!).So, because of this, biological fathers wife resents my daughter. His wife has picked her up and not spoken to her the whole ride to his house (45 minutes). Actually, she completely ignores her when she is there and hasnt spoken to her in months. Biological dad does absolutely nothing with my daughter (I dont think he's allowed to) to the point to where she never leaves his 1 bedroom apartment when shes there. She has stayed there for a week before (thanksgiving) and NEVER left the apartment. This entire year during his Saturday visitation, she has done nothing with him and never left the apartment but to come home.
The issue:
It states in the papers that my daughter is to be able to have her phone as her property. His wife is very concerned about her communication with anybody (epically us) and has followed her around on social media commenting about whats appropriate (shes an A student...we monitor her facebook,its crazy). Last week he (mostly his wife) tried to take it to install that app where if you dont return your parents texts they can shut it off.They chased her into the bathroom and his wife was saying things like "Is this how your mom teaches you to treat people" "you know your dad can use physical violence". We sent her to counseling when we were gonna go to court again and the counselor said this woman is threatened by my daughter AND my wife. With being completely ignored, wasting her time just sitting around and him doing nothing with her ever and now this blow up with his wife yelling at her, its no wonder she feels unwelcome. Not only unwelcome but completely abandoned by her biological dad for not standing up for her or maybe saying that his wife shouldnt ignore her. She texted this to him and he didnt respond.
Is there ANYTHING we can do? I hate sending her into this environment with this bitter crazy lady and a Dad who doesnt really care if shes there or not. I feel this all stems from his wife being upset about his child support (neither of them make much money and its a huge impact). Can we just say "keep this child support and she will see you when she wants?" if they agree.
If its not about the money then why does this woman insist on my daughter visiting when she cant stand her?
Does this environment she goes into matter in the court system? I cant stand to send her there over Christmas for 10 days and have her sit on a couch and be ignored and unwelcomed.
Thank you for any help,
Frustrated Step-Dad
The story:
My wife and I have been married for 8 years. For 6.5 years my step-daughters visitation with her biological father has been seamless.From ages 4-10 he saw her every other Saturday as a mutual spoken agreement. That was enough time for him. He remarried about a year and a half ago and its been hell. He married a social worker and alll of a sudden he wanted to enforce the visitation agreement (which was mid week) and he lives 45 minutes away. So he would drive back and forth multiple times a day, taking her to school and picking her up. We had to spend $1000 to get that changed to the weekends. However, he didnt want to take her to ANY of her activities. Games,Choir nothing that happened on Saturday. He said it was HIS time. Its crazy, all this because of his new wife. She will come in the room and tell him to change the TV if its a PG-13 movie that he is watching with her (shes 12) and he will do it.
So in other words were dealing with the decision maker in her, he does what she says.
We were going to go to court again but they agreed to mediate at the last minute and because of her activities visitation was agreed to every other Saturday (what it was before!).So, because of this, biological fathers wife resents my daughter. His wife has picked her up and not spoken to her the whole ride to his house (45 minutes). Actually, she completely ignores her when she is there and hasnt spoken to her in months. Biological dad does absolutely nothing with my daughter (I dont think he's allowed to) to the point to where she never leaves his 1 bedroom apartment when shes there. She has stayed there for a week before (thanksgiving) and NEVER left the apartment. This entire year during his Saturday visitation, she has done nothing with him and never left the apartment but to come home.
The issue:
It states in the papers that my daughter is to be able to have her phone as her property. His wife is very concerned about her communication with anybody (epically us) and has followed her around on social media commenting about whats appropriate (shes an A student...we monitor her facebook,its crazy). Last week he (mostly his wife) tried to take it to install that app where if you dont return your parents texts they can shut it off.They chased her into the bathroom and his wife was saying things like "Is this how your mom teaches you to treat people" "you know your dad can use physical violence". We sent her to counseling when we were gonna go to court again and the counselor said this woman is threatened by my daughter AND my wife. With being completely ignored, wasting her time just sitting around and him doing nothing with her ever and now this blow up with his wife yelling at her, its no wonder she feels unwelcome. Not only unwelcome but completely abandoned by her biological dad for not standing up for her or maybe saying that his wife shouldnt ignore her. She texted this to him and he didnt respond.
Is there ANYTHING we can do? I hate sending her into this environment with this bitter crazy lady and a Dad who doesnt really care if shes there or not. I feel this all stems from his wife being upset about his child support (neither of them make much money and its a huge impact). Can we just say "keep this child support and she will see you when she wants?" if they agree.
If its not about the money then why does this woman insist on my daughter visiting when she cant stand her?
Does this environment she goes into matter in the court system? I cant stand to send her there over Christmas for 10 days and have her sit on a couch and be ignored and unwelcomed.
Thank you for any help,
Frustrated Step-Dad
Custody and Visitation Issues: Visitation is a Unhealthy Enviornment
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